Dealing with your own Greatness.
As kids, we are told to play it small, play it safe, don't disturb, don't be too good because it might make people around you feel bad.
So we grow up, trying to fit in as much as we can, trying to be the nice, trouble-free, kid of the neighborhood.
The truth is, simply by the fact that we are "trying" to be something brings us far from what we really, Our true nature.. We put a filter on our reality and adapt our vision/actions to this new filtered person.
Let it be clear- Change IS hard. No matter what the change is.
The toughest period of changing yourself when you were young? The teenage crisis. Climax.
Have you ever notice how comfortable you are in the presence of young kids or grand parents?
Part of this comes from the same reason you feel comfortable with your better half- They allow themselves to be who they really are with you, and that allows you to do the same.
You don't have to downsize who you are, what you accomplish or what you want to accomplish to make people around you feel comfortable. By doing so, you will surround yourself with "like-minded" people who choke themselves to be accepted.
Dimming your own light will not allow people around you to shine more. It will let them appear brighter, with a weaker bulb.
The only real, efficient, way to light other people on fire is to be lit yourself, from the inside.
The brighter you shine, the more it reflects on people surrounding you.
Don't worry, those who can't stand your brightness will leave or temporarily put some sunglasses on until they eventually adjust to the new level of brightness.
The most important person you have to please and help feel like a CHAMPION, is yourself. The only person you have to be successful to, is you.
It's OK to be great. It's ok to hold yourself and the people surrounding you to high standards.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
Ever wonder why a lot of good athletes who win races are "dickheads"? They don't really shine. They make the people around dim their lights, so they can pretend that they shine... Don't get me wrong- they are good athletes, but they are not legends. We all know people like this.
Sometimes we wished so badly that the nice person who finish 2nd 3rd or 10th won the race. "They work so hard", "They are so involved', "They are the nicest person ever", etc. But they let their light be dimmed by a temporary champion. When eventually they allow themselves to shine, they become legends.
Legends and true champions uses their light to brighten everyone surrounding them. It's harder to do, but when they achieve it, they become legends. Champions. They are timeless.
Tom Cruise, Marianne Vos, Bill Gates, Alexandre Despatie, Leonardo DiCaprio, Wayne Greztky, Celine Dion, Sven Nys, Andre Agassi, Barack Obama, Katerina Nash, Carl Lewis, Michael Jordan, Roger Federer, Michael Phelps, and so on. Legends.
Are they perfect? No they are not. But their presence allow people around them to shine as much as them. That's what make them amazing idols and role models.
The path to greatness and exploiting your full potential is often times the path to your true self. You don't have to overthink it. Cut the bullshit.
"In order to have what you really want, you must first be who you really are"
Do not sabotage yourself. Please. Enjoy the ride, be grateful for who you are and allow yourself to shine.
Do a lot of people strive for that? No. Is it hard? Yes. Is it worth it? 100%.
Don't give up on who you are.